Typical Characteristics of a Co-dependant

1] I assume responsibility for other's feelings and behaviors. [feelings, yes.]

2] I feel overly responsible for other's feelings and behaviors. [feelings, yes.]

3] I have difficulty in identifying feelings -- Am I Angry? Lonely? Sad? Happy? Joyful? [not so much.]

4] I have difficulty expressing feelings -- I am feeling ... Happy, Sad, Hurt, Joyful. [yes.]

5] I tend to fear and/or worry how others may respond to my feelings. [very much so.]

6] I have difficulty in forming and/or maintaining close relationships. [yes.]

7] I am afraid of being hurt and/or rejected by others. [of course, yes.]

8] I am perfectionistic and place too many expectations on myself and others. [sadly, yes.]

9] I have difficulty making decisions. [about the things that mean the most to me, yes.]

10] I tend to minimize, alter or even deny the truth about how I feel. [this one hurts to acknowledge, but yes.]

11] Other people's actions and attitudes tend to determine how I respond/react. [constantly observing so i don't make a mistake, yes.]

12] I tend to put other people's wants and needs first. [yes.]

13] My fear of other's feelings (anger) determines what I say and do. [yes.]

14] I question or ignore my own values to connect with significant others. [pathetically, yes.]

15] I value other's opinions more than my own. [with people i admire/respect/love, yes.]

16] My self-esteem is bolstered by outer/other influences. [sometimes, often-times, and this is different from others how?]

17] I cannot acknowledge good things about myself. [false.]

18] My serenity and mental attention is determined by how other's are feeling and/or behaving. [i'm not absolute. but yes.]

19] I tend to judge everything I do, think, or say harshly; by someone else's standards -- nothing is done, said, or thought "Good Enough". [yes.]

20] I do not know or believe that being vulnerable and asking for help is both OKAY and NORMAL. [this one hits hard. yes.]

21] I do not know that it is OKAY to talk about problems outside the family; or that feelings just are -- and it is better to share them than to deny, minimize or justify them. [you're right, i have no knowing about this.]

22] I tend to put other people's wants and needs before my own. [yes.]

23] I am steadfastly loyal -- even when the loyalty is unjustified -- and personally harmful. [stupidly so.]

24] I have to be "needed" in order to have a relationship with others. [being needed feels good. and i suppose there's your answer.]